1. Take It In_
You have this piece of bad news that you want to tell me. Firstly you’re going to have to process it and it’s going to be difficult to deliver. So take it in and take your time.
2. Leave Me_
If I’m laughing and have this smile on my face. Wait! That’s only if this is the type of information that can’t wait. Let me feel this happiness. Let me take this in and have this right now.
3. Never A Good Time_
I know I said to wait but don’t wait too long. There is NEVER a good time to tell someone bad news. If there is a fun future event happening, I’d rather you tell me beforehand. The build up of you waiting is going to hurt as much as me finding out days upon days later. I wish we didn’t have to listen to it or experience it! Unfortunately, we do. In many cases, it can be seen as a burden and we are expecting the other shoe will drop. Bad news can also strive us to grow as individuals. It’s unfortunate that in order for bad things to happen the good that rises against it can make a huge difference and impact.
4. Hold On_
Have you ever experienced someone laughing when they receive bad news, then wait and the crying starts. Weird I know. We all react to bad news different. So let it sink in. There’s going to be denial, confusion, anger, sadness. An entire load of emotion.
‘This ain’t a good time, but when is it ever.”
5. Do You Know How To Catch?_
If you’re bad at playing catch you better get learning. The bad news that follows will have people falling and they’re going to need you to catch them. If you’re still terrible at catching. Grab someone’s that is good.
6. Bad News_
It doesn’t even have to be told to you by someone telling you. Switch on the TV, tune in on social media. There is always something. If I can have an hhour or a day just to feel and experience the good that is needed. We already know that the world is not 100% positive but we deserve that time. Have you seen those that live in worse situations still be able to smile. You think to yourself how do they do it.
7. Give It Time_
Some may recover quickly and some may never but they find a way to stand back up again. Don’t push it.
8. Embrace the good_
Once I have heard bad news about ours I feel awkward. How can I be smiling again when someone is hurting? That’s the thing we have to keep moving forward and embracing the good times we have, because you don’t know how long it’s going to last. I still care. If it’s my bad news well it will take me a while to get back up again… Just do me a favour and save it for tomorrow.
“The best way to heal a broken heart, it turns out, is to find a way to move past the hurt.”
-Mary Kay Andrews
Written By: @AmaniVHenry
Inspired By: Hurt Me Tomorrow – K’NAAN
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